Why You Feel So Tired All the Time..

Why You Feel So Tired All the Time (And It’s Not Laziness or Age)

If you’re a woman over 40 and you feel tired all the time — the kind of tired sleep doesn’t fix — this is for you.

Not “I had a busy week” tired.

Not “I stayed up too late” tired.

The deep, lingering exhaustion that makes you quietly wonder:

“Why can’t I cope like I used to?”

Let’s be clear from the start:

This is not laziness.

This is not weakness.

And it is not a personal failure.

This isn’t normal tired — it’s emotional exhaustion

Many women over 40 experience ongoing fatigue that doesn’t improve with rest alone.

That’s because this kind of tiredness is rarely just physical.

It’s usually a combination of:

emotional burnout

chronic stress

nervous system overload

hormonal changes during perimenopause or menopause

When your system has been “on” for years , managing, coping, holding everything together — it eventually reaches a point where it can’t recover through willpower or weekends off.

The hormonal factor most women aren’t told about.

During perimenopause and menopause, key hormones like oestrogen and progesterone fluctuate and decline.

These hormones play a major role in:

energy levels

mood regulation

sleep quality

stress tolerance

emotional resilience

Research shows that declining oestrogen increases sensitivity in the brain’s stress response system (the HPA axis). In simple terms:

Your nervous system becomes more reactive, and everyday life feels harder.

You’re not imagining it.

Your body is adapting — without much guidance or support.

The invisible emotional load women carry.

Now add this to the picture:

years of being the strong one

carrying the mental load for others

suppressing your own needs

relationship breakdowns or divorce

constant adaptation and responsibility

Long-term emotional stress keeps the nervous system in a heightened state. Over time, this leads to:

emotional burnout

brain fog

low motivation

feeling flat or disconnected

ongoing fatigue

Your body isn’t failing you.

It’s communicating with you.

Why confidence drops when energy drops.

This part is important.

Confidence isn’t just a mindset issue — it’s physiological.

When your nervous system is dysregulated and your hormones are shifting, your brain prioritises survival over confidence, clarity, and creativity.

So you start thinking:

“I’ve lost myself.”

“I’m not who I used to be.”

“Something is wrong with me.”

But confidence doesn’t disappear because you’re broken.

It disappears because you’re depleted.

What actually helps (backed by science and experience)

Burnout and emotional exhaustion don’t resolve through pushing harder.

They heal through:

nervous system regulation

emotional safety

reduced mental load

hormonal awareness

consistent support

Small, sustainable changes, done with compassion — are far more effective than drastic "overhauls" or “trying harder.”

This season of life requires a different approach, not more effort.

A reframe you may need to hear.

You are not lazy.

You are not weak.

You are not past your prime.

You are a woman navigating hormonal change, emotional load, and a nervous system that’s asking for care, not criticism.

Listening to that isn’t giving up.

It’s wisdom.

If this resonated and you’re realising that what you’re experiencing runs deeper than motivation or rest, you don’t have to figure it out alone.

I create supportive spaces for women who are ready to restore their energy, rebuild their sense of self, and feel like themselves again — gently, intelligently, and with real support.

If that sounds like where you are, stay close.

This work is about learning a new way forward and you don’t have to carry it by yourself.